relationships

Ever wonder why relationships stall? Each of us evolves in different ways. What has meaning for one may not have the same meaning for another or the meaning may change as needs change. Alison Armstrong offers an interesting perspective on relationships in HWTM-12. It all boils down to thoughtful communication. Here are some of her profound observations:

• How we define an issue or concern frames the resolution.
• Ask the questions you for which really want the answer. Then, count to 30 so the other person can think about it.
• Men are naturally committed so need to consider their answers.
• Women need to fit with another person based on their current commitments.
• We each need to recognize the limitations and advantages to the different states that others are in as they proceed in life.
• Believe in your significant other.
• Men reveal themselves to people who cannot or will not hurt them.
• Adventurous men marry adventurous women.
• Dating is a sorting problem, not a finding problem.
• Know the feeling you look for in a man and speak your truth about it. Fly the flag of who you are.
• Create space for each other.
• No one is misbehaving.

Be sure to learn about her book, "Keys to the Kingdom", Ms. Armstrong says, "It’s written for all people who are hungry for information and insights into joyful, satisfying relationships between men and women. I encourage the reader to pause, to reflect, to absorb, and to use each of the keys to the kingdom available in this tale." Learn more from Alison Armstrong on YouTube and note the side links to more videos.

space-time

It is the distance between our many selves that allows us to experience discrete identities and moments in time. The past that you remember and the future that you would see is the now that simply is. It is true on another level as well. There is only one of us. When you look up at the stars, you see what you perceive as your past. Even when you look at what is right in front of you, it is impossible to see the present. The present happens then turns into a burst of light formed by energy dispersing and that light reaches your visual receptors and it takes time for it to do that. All the while that light is reaching you, life is going on, moving forward. The next event is happening while the light is reaching you. The energy burst reaches your eyes, your receptors send the signal to your brain which interprets the data. Yet, that is not what is now in front of you at all. You are thinking about what you are seeing, telling yourself what it is, deciding what you are going to call it, while what is happening now is proceeding your process and awaiting it. The more distance you place between yourself and any physical event, the further into the past that event proceeds. Place yourself a few light-years back. What you are looking at happened very long ago, yet it did not happen long ago. It is merely physical distance which has created the illusion of time and allowed you to experience yourself being here now all the while you were being there then. What you call space and time is the same thing. Everything is happening right here, right now. Physical distance creates the illusion of time. Nothing you see is real. This is your image-ination (imagination).

You can use your imagination to create anything. Your image-ination works both ways. You not only interpret energy, you create it. Imagination is the function of your mind, which is one third of your three-part being. In your mind you image something and it begins to take physical form. The longer you image it and the more of you who image it, the more physical that form becomes until the increasing energy you have given it literally bursts into light flashing an image of itself into what you call your reality. You then see the image and once again decide what it is. Thus, the cycle continues. This is the process. This is what you are. This is what God is. This is what is meant by 'you are both the creator and the created'.

(Refer to Conversations with God, Book 3, by Neale Donald Walsch.)